Have you ever been surfing around on Netflix looking for something to watch in the middle of the night -because why not-and you click on some random thing that looks promising only to then have that movie completely pull you in because there’s just something about it that speaks to you? Well, that’s what happened to me last night when I stumbled across Naomi & Ely’s No Kiss List, which I’ve recently learned is also based on a book of the same name. Maybe I’ll read it next.
If you know nothing of this movie (or book and I can’t say how similar they are in comparison) as I didn’t when I came across it in my Netflix recommendation list, here is the gist. Naomi & Ely have been inseparable best friends their whole lives and during this friendship Naomi has fallen in love with Ely. But here’s the problem. Ely is gay.
The movie is told through Naomi’s POV and beautifully done. I felt the movie really captured how these two characters feel about each other. Yes, Ely is gay so there can never be any romantic feelings between them, but that doesn’t mean they don’t love each other deeply, because they do. And that was the best part.
When we meet Naomi, her and Ely appear to be wild and free and just out to have fun, but upon closer examination they’re both struggling with personal family dramas and trying to find there place in the world. They’re in their own little bubble and Naomi has gotten so comfortable with her and Ely’s relationship that when things start to change, namely when Ely develops feelings for Bruce (Naomi’s boyfriend whom she has no real feelings for) and Bruce reciprocates those feelings, it’s hard for her to deal with it. Not because she cares that Ely and Bruce like each other, but because in her head it was always her and Ely against the world. It felt like she was losing her best friend and that caused her to lash out, thus the end of Naomi and Ely, the institution. But in some ways this was good because there were a few things Naomi needed to come to terms with and discover about herself that she couldn’t do with Ely at her side. On her own, she was finally able to address some hard issues at home and allow herself to be open to a new love that was right there in front of her the whole time. Naomi and Ely’s time apart forced them to take a hard look at themselves and their friendship and in the end it made them stronger for it. Their friendship couldn’t remain the same as it was, but that didn’t mean it couldn’t evolve.
Ultimately, this was a story about the many forms of love, discovering who you are, and realizing that you can have more than one soulmate.
These two lines from the movie say it best:
“It’s bullshit to think of friendship and romance as being different. They’re not. They’re just variations of the same love. Variations of the same desire to be close.”
“It’s a total lie to say there’s only one person you’re going to be with for the rest of your life. If you’re lucky – and if you try really hard – there will always be more than one.”
Be sure to hit the comment section below and share your thought on Naomi & Ely – the movie or the book. Did you hate it? Love it? Just felt it was blah? Was there any other movie that spoke to you that you’d like to share? Another for me is 10 Inch Hero with Jensen Ackles, but that’ll be a blog post for next time.